Considering Adoption? We Can Help!

 If you were to choose this option, you would still be able to live at Bethesda House and take advantage of all of the levels of care as any other mom who comes to life with us.

The love you have for your child is immense – so immense, in fact, that you may have started thinking about making one of the most difficult decisions of your life. Giving a child up for adoption can be one of the most loving decisions you can make for your child.

There are many reasons why a mother might come to this decision.  Whatever the reason, it doesn’t mean you love your child any less.  It means you love your child so much that you want to ensure that his or her life is full of the necessities and luxuries that you feel you cannot provide.

For women in your position, there is hope.  Regardless of where you are in your pregnancy, and whatever the reason, it is never too late to choose adoption. This choice does not signal that you are weak or “giving up” in any way.  In fact, many women who choose adoption are wonderful mothers; by choosing adoption, you can provide your child with loving parents, endless opportunities and a happy life — and that is what great mothers do.

Bethesda House is an option for mothers who are considering adoption.  You are invited to stay at Bethesda House, where we will help you through your pregnancy and the adoption process, assisting you to play an important role in giving your child the best chance at the life you hope for him or her. Your length of stay is determined on an individual basis and will be determined during the intake process. You will get the same abundance of care as any other mother who comes to live with us.

If you are considering adoption, please e-mail mp@bethesdahousema.org or call/text 781-361-2418 directly before completing an application.

A Bethesda House Mother’s Adoption Story

When I was a kid, I never had my parents as role models since my grandparents raised me. When I had my first son Titan, I didn’t know what I was doing and his dad wasn’t much help. I struggled a lot with Titan— it was more the emotional part than the physical part.  I got mixed up in stuff I shouldn’t have so Titan was put in foster care. I didn’t fight to get him back. I finally agreed to adoption because I knew that it was is best for him. Sadly, since it was through DCF, it’s taking a lot longer than I think it should.

When I got pregnant again with my second son Dazz, I struggled again so much. I knew deep down that I couldn’t be the mother he needed me to be. It was hard for me to admit—to myself and other people— because my family would make me feel like I was not doing the right thing and make it all about them.  I was also worried about what other people would think because I couldn’t raise either of my babies the way they should be raised. I felt like admitting that would make me this horrible person.

I knew deep down that I couldn’t be the mother he needed me to be.

Up to this point, the only way I had experienced adoption was through Titan’s adoption through DCF and I didn’t want that for Dazz too.  Sadly, I didn’t have a choice when it came to Titan but this time with Dazz, I finally made the choice to go through a private adoption and I am so happy about my choice. Sometimes I do get sad but I also know that it is the best thing I have done for Dazz.  The process this time took two weeks. I actually got to meet the family and spend time with them and see how they are with him.  Getting to know them also helped me realize that I did the right thing. The awesome part is that I have their number and email so I can text them and check on him any time.